Couples Therapist Advice on Break Ups, Love Languages, and Conflict | Vanessa Bennett & John Kim

In this episode, I spoke with Vanessa Bennett and John Kim about the dynamics of relationships. Together we discussed their book that they co-wrote, called "It's Not Me, It's You," different relationship attachment styles, common relationship problems, vulnerability and discernment, couples sleeping in separate beds, and much more. Vanessa Bennett is a licensed Holistic Psychotherapist, Clinical Entrepreneur, Author, and the Co-Host of the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast. Vanessa received her Masters in counseling at the Pacifica Graduate Institute, where she focused primarily on Counseling Psychology. John Kim, also known as "The Angry Therapist," is a licensed Therapist and Life Coach, Host of The Angry Therapist Podcast, a best selling Author, and the Co-Founder of the TAT Lab and Lumia Coach Training. Thanks for tuning in. If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe!

Chapters

1. 0:00Intro
2. 7:22Writing the Book "It's Not Me, It's You"
3. 14:26Being in a Relationship with a Therapist
4. 15:46Common Relationship Problems
5. 16:36Differences in Love Languages
6. 20:51Struggling to Receive Words of Affirmation
7. 23:02Saying "No"
8. 29:45The Compromise of Self
9. 35:41Handling Arguments
10. 37:25Anger is a Motivating Emotion
11. 40:41Developing Vulnerability and Discernment
12. 42:20Masculine Energy
13. 45:59Socialization vs. Natural Temperament
14. 48:05Identifying Resentment in Yourself
15. 50:51Overcoming Resentment
16. 55:22Owning, Not Blaming
17. 57:43A Generational Shift in Perceiving Divorce
18. 59:17Sleeping in Separate Beds
19. 1:02:14Co-Writing "It's Not Me, It's You"
20. 1:05:07Vanessa and John on Social Media
21. 1:05:37Outro